Comments on: Does Long Distance Relationships Ever Work?

By: little stars

little stars — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 21:57:38 +0000

well sort of…i also have a friend (not me disguised as my friend) who liked this guy in another country for about 2-3 years? & he liked her back. they had a great time chatting & she really fell from him. but due to time differences and he being 5 years her senior (which mean university from him while she was in high school) … it just slowly fell apart. she was devastated…but she got over him after a year or two.
i sort of had one…but it was a bit complicated. he likes be but still loves his ex. i mean sure if we were in the same state i could make him LOVE ME!! (lol) but sadly, i can’t cause we are not. & patheticly now, cause he usually come on msn around this time, i am waiting up for him. he treats me like “crap” sometimes…in the sense that he talks about his ex — BUT WHO CARES, i think i love that guy.
SO IN CONCLUSION, it’s hard – long distance relationships. you can fall deeply in love with them and it may never even work out. but if both sides work hard to maintain the relationship and eventually find a long term solution, it can actually work.

By: Lissy

Lissy — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 20:17:36 +0000

They work, but only if both parties are COMPLETELY under control sexually.
I don’t mean to be crude, but that’s most of the reason that some people say that. They can’t go without sex for more than a month at a time. It happens in the military too. The husbands go off, and many of the wives can’t help themselves and end up messing around with other guys, while their husband’s are messing around with prostitutes.
I’m not saying that they’re all that way, it’s just that there is a high percentage of those that are.
Personally, I got engaged to my husband long distance.
We’ve known each other since we were 3,
so it’s not like i didn’t know him.
He was in the navy and called me out of the blue one day, and we started talking on the phone. We were sure that we were going to marry before he ever came home for thanksgiving, and he proposed to me in the parking garage.

Good memories!
That was only about 6 months that we talked and were apart, but we’re looking at another 6 soon because he’s going to Japan.
We’ve dealt with 1 month deployments with no problem.
The secret is being faithful to your spouse (or bf/gf/) and LOTS of talking on the phone!
Just had to add… Blair hit the nail on the head with the paranoia thing. That is a BIG issue.
I never worried until during one of those one month stints my husband told me (yes, I know, he told me, so I shouldn’t have worried right?) that he was going to dinner with 2 women that were in his old command that had just come to town… one of them looks like a friggin supermodel…
I flipped out… Maybe unreasonably, but yeah. It wasn’t good.
Hopefully he will have better judgment next time, I mean, he really didn’t do anything bad, but that’s kind of borderline for me.
I wish your friends luck

By: golom_12

golom_12 — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 14:51:28 +0000

i dont know]

By: Sumkh3

Sumkh3 — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 08:40:55 +0000

mine is working.
do what ever it takes to keep your relationship healthy.
Best Of Luck

By: brightci

brightci — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 06:43:20 +0000

Tried it once, didnt work out.

By: Cassandra's Folly

Cassandra's Folly — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 02:05:41 +0000

Never say never! Of course they can. It’s definitely more challenging, but possible.

By: Mer M

Mer M — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 21:40:05 +0000

its not a RULE!! they are definately hard, but they could work. My gf and I survived for 4 yrs in different countries. we saw each other twice a year only and for 2weeks max every time! we’re engaged and getting married soon it’s worth the wait

By: Supa-Inc

Supa-Inc — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 19:35:20 +0000

Well Sweetie!……..just listening to your Patter reminds me just how lucfky I am that I am not on the receiving end of your inane little diatribes in my email every day.
Gawd help Ted Mosby and Gawd help the long distance friend.
And you are right!….you ARE curious….VERY VERY CURIOUS!

By: nikki moo

nikki moo — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 14:31:36 +0000

they can work but its very rare. my aunt and uncle had one for a few years when she had to move away and they stuck it out and are happily married and have been for over 20 years. i think it’s just a big commitment to each other and genuinely trusting the other person and caring for them to the point no one else would suffice.

By: Indie Girl

Indie Girl — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 11:03:44 +0000

my heart is in iraq, and its been there for 5 months and will be there for 8 more months.
So yes i do believe if you want it bad enough a long distance can work, but the thing is, long distance relationships either make or break you relationship. but making it stronger or destroying it.
if its love it will last, if not then it just wasn’t meant to be.