cuz i have a friend… SERIOUSLY ITS A FRIEND not me trying to be disguised as “a friend” anyways she lives here in surrey, bc and he lives somewhere in calgary but i dont wanna go straight up to her and say itll never work, hes a cool guy i met him at grad, i also know this guy named ted mosby and he said that long distance relationships NEVER WORK and he really emphasized that i dont wanna mess anything up wit my friend or anything
but im jus generally curious do they work and does anyone have one currently?
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They work sometimes. More often they don’t. But…lots of people who have long distance relationships make them work. Depends on the couple, how much they want it to work, how much they care about each other, and how much work they both do to make to make it work.
How could long distance relationships work? They’re miles away from one another, they can’t even call one another and say “could you come over” just for the heck of it. They can’t see one another when they want. Let’s be honest, men want sex, and a lot of it. When he realizes that he can’t easily have sex with her when he wants, why wouldn’t he go to the next girl that actually lives where he lives? How do you know that her boyfriend isn’t cheating on her? You would never know because they’re so far from one another.
Well, my relationship has been working fine, we’ve been together lamost a year and a half. And we live about 2 hours away. But I dont think the acctual distance matters- if your willing to put up with the pain of missing someone- and if you have enough trust in them, it’ll work. It can get difficult, but if you know its worth it, you’ll do everything you can go keep it going. They just havre to make sure they talk to eachother once a day or something, and try their best to arrange meet ups as offen as they can manage- whether thats 1’s a week- or 1’s a month… maybe longer!
Some people get bored of long distance relationships- and thats why they dont work, they dont think its worth it, or they can’t take the pain annymore.
they don’t work .
they could if both the people are 100 percent committed, secure in themselves, have no issues and can always avoid temptation, and are completely not paranoid
but i don’t think anyone is like that . also the distance just amplifies the paranoia, you always wonder what the other person is doing, who they’re with, and you’ll never know for sure if their friends are something more
i think it’s very hard but i’m pessimistic in this cs they have never worked for me . there is no closeness in them , and i hate talking online or o the phone it just isn’t the same
but my friend and his girlfriend live in UK and USA while one is in college, and it’s obv very long distance and they seem to cope, but he says it gets lonely .
B xoxo
Long distance relationships could work if people trust each other and be trustworthy with time and space between them. Problem comes when other emotions like paranoia, jealousy, control-freakishness, and anxiety come into play trust gets whittled down to nothing. Second problem is one of the people finding someone else they want to date that’s closer and takes less effort to actually be with so they break up with you later.
With effort and commitment, people can make relationships work. It takes loyalty, excellent communication, and faithfulness on both parts. Being together in the same environment is much better, but the fantasy of a distant lover can add sunshine to any day. Take love where you find it and treasure it. It’s all perception whether it works or not. If they both want it to work, then it can be done.
my heart is in iraq, and its been there for 5 months and will be there for 8 more months.
So yes i do believe if you want it bad enough a long distance can work, but the thing is, long distance relationships either make or break you relationship. but making it stronger or destroying it.
if its love it will last, if not then it just wasn’t meant to be.
they can work but its very rare. my aunt and uncle had one for a few years when she had to move away and they stuck it out and are happily married and have been for over 20 years. i think it’s just a big commitment to each other and genuinely trusting the other person and caring for them to the point no one else would suffice.
Well Sweetie!……..just listening to your Patter reminds me just how lucfky I am that I am not on the receiving end of your inane little diatribes in my email every day.
Gawd help Ted Mosby and Gawd help the long distance friend.
And you are right!….you ARE curious….VERY VERY CURIOUS!
its not a RULE!! they are definately hard, but they could work. My gf and I survived for 4 yrs in different countries. we saw each other twice a year only and for 2weeks max every time! we’re engaged and getting married soon
it’s worth the wait 
Never say never! Of course they can. It’s definitely more challenging, but possible.
Tried it once, didnt work out.
mine is working.
do what ever it takes to keep your relationship healthy.
Best Of Luck
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They work, but only if both parties are COMPLETELY under control sexually.
I don’t mean to be crude, but that’s most of the reason that some people say that. They can’t go without sex for more than a month at a time. It happens in the military too. The husbands go off, and many of the wives can’t help themselves and end up messing around with other guys, while their husband’s are messing around with prostitutes.
I’m not saying that they’re all that way, it’s just that there is a high percentage of those that are.
Personally, I got engaged to my husband long distance.
We’ve known each other since we were 3,
so it’s not like i didn’t know him.
He was in the navy and called me out of the blue one day, and we started talking on the phone. We were sure that we were going to marry before he ever came home for thanksgiving, and he proposed to me in the parking garage.
Good memories!
That was only about 6 months that we talked and were apart, but we’re looking at another 6 soon because he’s going to Japan.
We’ve dealt with 1 month deployments with no problem.
The secret is being faithful to your spouse (or bf/gf/) and LOTS of talking on the phone!
Just had to add… Blair hit the nail on the head with the paranoia thing. That is a BIG issue.
I never worried until during one of those one month stints my husband told me (yes, I know, he told me, so I shouldn’t have worried right?) that he was going to dinner with 2 women that were in his old command that had just come to town… one of them looks like a friggin supermodel…
I flipped out… Maybe unreasonably, but yeah. It wasn’t good.
Hopefully he will have better judgment next time, I mean, he really didn’t do anything bad, but that’s kind of borderline for me.
I wish your friends luck
well sort of…i also have a friend (not me disguised as my friend) who liked this guy in another country for about 2-3 years? & he liked her back. they had a great time chatting & she really fell from him. but due to time differences and he being 5 years her senior (which mean university from him while she was in high school) … it just slowly fell apart. she was devastated…but she got over him after a year or two.
i sort of had one…but it was a bit complicated. he likes be but still loves his ex. i mean sure if we were in the same state i could make him LOVE ME!! (lol) but sadly, i can’t cause we are not. & patheticly now, cause he usually come on msn around this time, i am waiting up for him. he treats me like “crap” sometimes…in the sense that he talks about his ex — BUT WHO CARES, i think i love that guy.
SO IN CONCLUSION, it’s hard – long distance relationships. you can fall deeply in love with them and it may never even work out. but if both sides work hard to maintain the relationship and eventually find a long term solution, it can actually work.